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When Attracting Sexy Women, Remember... Time And Circumstance Change Everything
Many guys are just too intimidated and full of anxiety around sexy women to be successful at attracting women. I've even seen guys who turn women's heads walking into a room who have this issue. Let me help some of you who may have this "between the ears" handicap. I have a good friend of mine who teaches people how to become millionaires by investing in real estate. He's bought and sold over 1,500 houses in his real estate career. The guy is a real doer, not a talker (he's pretty good at attracting women, too)? and one of the most successful guys I know. I asked him what he considered to be the most important key to being a successful Real Estate investor. He looked me right in the eye and said this: "Time and circumstance change everything." How does this apply to attracting desirable and sexy women? See, in Real Estate investing you have to deal with a "motivated seller" so you can get the house at the right price and make a nice profit when you "cash out." You have to deal with those who need to sell, not want to sell. What my friend told me was this: some of the best deals he ever put together came from dealing with people who told him no month after month after month? and then they finally said yes (much like sexy women will). What happened? Time and circumstance changed. They went from wanting to sell, to needing to sell, and when they needed to sell he was still there. If he'd been like most real estate investors and forgotten about the deal as soon as he heard "no" he would never have been as successful as he is today. The same thing applies to attracting women. Here's the truth about how people, including sexy women, think: No decision, however firm in the moment, is ever final. Ever. Decisions are always being made, and re-made based on time and circumstance. An unmotivated seller today may be very motivated tomorrow. The same thing applies when it comes to attracting women. I hear guy after guy say, "She rejected me, I have no chance with sexy women like her." Or, "She left me for another guy. She's gone forever." All that's malarkey? just send all those women over to the King and eventually I'll allow them to spend time with me, no matter what they say in the beginning. Why? Because time and circumstance change everything, whether you're selling real estate, or meeting intimidating, sexy women. A few years ago I had a truly amazing once in a lifetime experience with a woman, Christine R. (she's one of my female testimonials at www.womenapproachyou.com/enter.htm) from Seattle. She saw an article about me, contacted me and we wound up meeting in Reno, sharing an experience that is really indescribable. It felt like we lived a lifetime together in three days-an amazing example of what can happen when you master the art of attracting women. However, due to distance and other factors we both knew a long term committed relationship was out of the question, although we continued to meet as "adventure partners." But I knew she'd eventually meet a guy for a long term relationship because family was very important to her. And she did. And it was painful for me. HOWEVER? I didn't get mad or place her in the "ex's" category or the "friends category" (like many men do when "dumped" by sexy women). Nope, instead I left our relationship open to endless possibilities, although at the time she assured me she had met "the one," and that she and I would never be intimate again. (I, being the King, said it was not "the one," simply the "next one.") But time and circumstance change everything, especially when attracting women. And I did see her again in an intimate way. And she is in my life today, in a totally different way than I ever expected-in a way where we can both be truly happy for each other no matter if the other is in a relationship or not. That never would have happened had we become "just friends" or "ex's." And it rarely happens with men who date sexy women. What can you learn from this? No matter what a woman tells you at the time, all decisions are subject to change. I have been told three times in my life by women I cared deeply for that our time together was over. But it wasn't. If I'd reacted like the typical guy and considered these sexy women "evil bitches" who were out to get me, our "future time" never ever would have happened. But I simply gave them my genuine understanding, told them how much our time together meant, and let them know I would be in their lives in whatever capacity they needed, without judgment, without ulterior motive, without ever saying, "I told you so." And all three came back to me, and our relationships to this day are stronger than they ever were before. Why? Because I understand this when it comes to attracting women: time and circumstance change everything. John Alanis, "The King of Let 'em Come to You", is author of the "Women Approach You" system at http://www.womenapproachyou.com. His blog is at http://www.johnalanis.com
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